An Open Letter to the Lonely College Girl
Dear Lonely College Girl,
Hey lonely girl, I know where you are in life and have probably asked a lot of the same questions you are right now. You are probably wondering what you’re doing wrong or possibly where you need to be hanging out to cross paths with “the one.” When I went off to college, I thought I would find him and it would be happily ever after. But that’s definitely not how it went down.
Trust me, girl, I was there. And let me be the first to tell you, the path I followed to get to where I am today was not the easiest. Struggle, hurt, and, at times, anger is what I continually felt. Countless nights were spent praying and pleading with God to please lead me to “the one,” to please let him find me. I couldn’t understand why God’s plan didn’t include love. Feeling like a failure often drove me away from God and I didn’t feel like I could trust Him.
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Eventually, I grew tired of crying and pleading with God and decided that this was it. This was His plan for me. Loneliness. And after that, I prayed for contentment and soon accepted that I would go through life alone. Where I had once hoped for marriage, I then hoped for a career. I started to focus my efforts towards work and stopped pleading for love. I became content. Then I became hopeful. And finally, I became happy. I had finally figured out how to be happy in my singleness. Excited about the future and not feeling so lonely was an amazing feeling and I was so thankful. God hadn’t given up on me and He had allowed me to be happy.
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Then it happened. Or should I say he happened?
Who would have guessed that at the end of my last semester of college, God would shove this cute, blonde boy into the study room? As soon as he could plop down at the table next to one of my classmates, I had already sent out a text to our group chat calling dibs. Fast forward a little and here we are today, to me sending not-so-subtle hints at rings and cute proposals.
What I am trying to tell you through all this, though, is stop stressing. Stop pleading and trying to force it. Cherish this time to be with yourself and to learn about yourself and who you are. Learn from the season you are in because God put you there for a reason; he doesn’t allow you to go through this pain with no reward in the end.
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His plans for you are more beautiful than you can imagine. So don’t lose faith and remember so many have been in a similar position to you. Hang in there because you will love the plans He has for you.
xo, Rachel Nicole
(a girl like you)