How to Learn Patience & Why It’s Important
Patience. For the longest time, I never understood the meaning of the word. What exactly is patience? Does it mean endurance? Does it mean to not care for what you are waiting on? What does it mean to be patient? Google defines it as this: the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset. So, we must be able to accept our unfavorable state without getting upset or angry. I don’t know about for you, but for me, this is really hard.
I am going to admit that I am not a very patient person. Patience is something I have been trying to obtain, but I struggle so hard with it. Do you want to know why? Because I am a control freak. I want to control everything in my life. I want everything to go exactly how I plan it out in my head and I want it right the second I think it up. It’s honestly like a sickness. My mind sets me up for daily disappointment and causes me anxiety that I don’t need.
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This year, though, I have made leaps and bounds on my journey to learning patience. A lot of work has gone into re-wiring my brain so that I am not disappointed or causing myself anxiety. I have been reading my Bible more and truly learning the Word for myself. I was discussing with a close friend of mine the other night about how reading the Bible for ourselves and not having someone else teach it to us has made it so much more personal. Patience is a reoccurring message throughout the Bible. God tells us this in Ecclesiastes 3:11:
He has made everything beautiful in its time.
God didn’t say everything is made beautiful in our time, or right when we want it. He is saying that He is giving us what we want so we will prosper. But it will be when He sees fit(Jeremiah 29:11). We have to lay our trust in the Lord and hand over or anxiety to Him because He already has it all figured out. He has these elaborately planned out blueprints for our lives. We may not be able to see these plans, but they will get us where we want to go.
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How I Changed My Perspective & Started Practicing Patience
It is definitely easier said than done, and it honestly takes patience to learn patience (that will get your brain spinning)! It’s not something you can order through AmazonPrime and have it shipped to you in two days for free. It has honestly taken me (almost) 24 years to figure it out for myself. And I honestly don’t think anyone has patience, they are just able to think what is troubling them differently. Here is an example of how I am re-working my thoughts.
Before: I want to be married, live in a beautiful house, drive a nice car and have a super successful career.
Now: I am working really hard to set myself up for the future I want. I am in a good place in my life and I am further to my goals than I was a year ago.
For me, I have been trying to change my perspective so I can better appreciate what I have and know that I am working towards my goals. Patience is about accepting where you are and what obstacles you are given and to be thankful for all that you have. It’s not about waiting to get what we want; it’s about being grateful for what we already have. I hope that if you are in a season in your life that is unfavorable, that you just be patient and focus on all that you already have. God has great plans for you and you will know what they are in time.
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Do you struggle with being patient like me? Comment down below and let me know.
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xo, Rachel Nicole
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